Why Blame God For Everything!!

God is like parents, he is there to nourish us. Then he sets us free to find the truth and lead our lives. Just like parents, he doesn't want anything from us, he only knows how to give because there is a happiness in giving and he is the ultimate happiness. He is never responsible for anyone's suffering or mishappenings. It's us who blame for everything. "I dropped my purse somewhere, maybe god is trying to punish me as I forgot to go to temple on Thursday", that's petty.
Let me dig it deeper for you.
We don't want to know the truth that we are enormously powerful, creative children of the Creator; that we are always connected to God and all; and that we are truly very sensitive, loving, and good.
In God's words:
 "If you knew who you were, and you were acting like yourself, you would naturally be responsible for everyone. You would naturally feel love for everyone. You would naturally reach out, and help, and heal."In our current, ego-identified level of consciousness, most of us can hardly face our ordinary human responsibilities, let alone the ultimate responsibility of living as the Godly creatures we truly are.
Furthermore, we don't want to face the IMPLICATIONS of how uncomfortable we REALLY ARE with our ego-driven lifestyle; how much better we actually KNOW than what our behavior suggests; how much it pains us to be selfish; and how many problems it really causes. We're attached to our self-centered ideas, desires, and ways of doing things
It is said, "Know the truth, and the truth will set you free." But, if the price of freedom is to give up our egotistical habits and false ideas which it IS -- WE DON'T WANT the truth that sets us free.It causes us all kinds of problems, but we're attached to it.
Therefore, we feel we can't AFFORD to know the truth about God. We don't want the RESPONSIBILITY of knowing. Now we're getting to the heart of the matter: we don't want to be responsible.
Isn't it obvious that, all around the world, countless people avoid personal responsibility, or minimize it? When things go wrong, we tend to point the finger of blame at everybody ELSE -- and especially at God. We may admit that human beings are responsible to a degree; but usually that means OTHER human beings, rather than, say, oneself.
When bad things happen, we think that God is either wrongly doing them, or wrongly allowing them to be done. We resent God for the sorry state of the world we see. So we ask accusatory questions like these:
Why does God let all these bad things happen?
Why doesn't God make people do the right thing?
Why does God allow people to suffer?
Why won't God let me succeed at this or that?
Why is God always testing me?
    All those questions assume that God has huge responsibility for the troubles of the world -- as well as huge responsibility for our own difficulties.
Where the relationship to God is concerned, it is crucial to admit that negative views of God result directly from our reluctance to take responsibility for difficulties we and other humans create. As long as it exists, that pattern will always foster an unfavorable view of God. To improve our view of God we must upgrade our willingness to take responsibility.
 Even when others say or do things that are hurtful, often we are largely responsible for HOW MUCH those things hurt us. MOST of the negative impact of others' actions results not from the actions themselves, but from the way WE interpret and respond to those actions. For example, somebody makes a thoughtless and offensive remark, and then we spend days hurting ourselves by harboring resentment. Let it go! Honestly, each of us has a MUCH larger share in the creation of our own suffering than we prefer to admit.

The world we see is the world we are creating around ourselves. That world includes not just the lifestyle that we live, but also the people surrounding us, and the way they relate to us. One man works hard to be reliable, and has the happy experience of being trusted, while another earns distrust, and suffers THAT unpleasant experience. A reactive person evokes negative reactions in others; then there are two reactive people -- or a roomful. Conditions deteriorate instantly. Mayhem!
Look around at what man hath wrought:
A bar fight breaks out. Did God create it?
A couple argues. Did God create that argument?A world leader decides to wage war. Did God create that war?
God is not creating those things -- PEOPLE are! And yet, people suffering those experiences will cry, "God, why did You make such a miserable, horrible world?" Poor God! And, poor blaming, irresponsible, disempowered humanity! If people would take responsibility, we'd create differently. Otherwise, we will continue to create the 'cruel world' in which we live.
We seem to have a blind spot that prevents us from seeing the relationship between what we do and what "happens to" us. Could it be that we're covering our eyes with our own hands? For example: A person steals at work, gets caught and sent to jail. The thief complains, "The world is a cruel place -- it jails people." But a wise voice replies, "The world jails THIEVES. You went to jail because you were stealing. You don't do the time if you don't do the crime." If we would admit that, we could get off blame, and onto a MUCH better life.
"The love you take is equal to the love you make."
"We make our bed and we lie in it."Those expressions remind us that we are the creators of what happens in our lives. To understand and accept that principle is to take responsibility -- which is EXACTLY what the ego wants to avoid. So, to make matters worse, we make our bed and we lie ABOUT it
 It's good for us -- really! Any displaced responsibility robs us of a portion of our actual power and control. And in our minds, it makes God and everybody else responsible for our well-being and happiness. Then, when we find ourselves to be miserable -- because it's impossible for God or anyone else to make us happy if we don't do our part -- we feel like victims. We complain that God victimized us, or everybody else victimized us. But the fact is, we have victimized ourselves. We've defaulted from our own, rightful, God-given responsibility.
Just as spouses sit in counseling waiting for one another to change, people sit waiting for God to become less mean; or to stop allowing bad things to happen -- or to make sure more good things happen. But, in fact, we -- the people waiting for God -- hold the steering wheel. And if we are looking to God, or to others, when we should be watching the road, we steer ourselves into a ditch with our own hands.
 Don't say, "They made me feel this way, or act this way." That's blame. Instead, take responsibility! Simply and honestly say, "I have capitulated to culture. I have capitulated to my husband. I have caved in to expectations. I did that. That's my responsibility. I have displaced my why to my mate, to common culture, etc., instead of authentically sourcing my own existence. I need to take my power back; and the only way I can do that is by being who I am, and taking responsibility for what I do."
Then take responsibility! Admit and correct your mistakes; but more than that, start creating BEAUTIFULLY. And do it all in a joyful, loving, Godly way -- as is fitting for a child of God -- not in a reactive, fiercely independent way, as a martyr or a bitter victim would do. (That would still be blaming and harvest all of blame's bad results.) If we would embrace our responsibility in a good spirit, we'd find nothing left to blame God for -- and MUCH to be thankful for.

Love is the highest form of worship, Well said, because it not only removes your pains but also gives you eternal happiness. When you love something deeply, there comes a desire of giving selflessly and through that happiness of giving, one finds eternal happiness. He created modes and means to relax and comfort us but we don't use it.Instead we go for hate and jealousy, which is the antithesis to love and takes us away from the happiness and peace. He loves you, love him back. Try giving compliments to his doings, try appreciating his givings.
This world is full of seekers who would like to see God, but too often, their motivations are related to blame. "I'm glad I finally got to meet You, God, because I've got some grievances ...." Or, "I'm glad I finally got to meet You, God, because I've got a few problems I'm hoping You can fix for me." Relying on God's help is not necessarily a form of blame -- in fact, it is appropriate to depend rightly on God. But dependence on God reflects blame if we put all the responsibility for fixing our problems on God, and take too little responsibility ourselves.
Only if we will stop blaming God can we SEE the beauty of God, and the beauty of ourselves. Our world will not be beautiful until we take responsibility for being beautiful -- as we ARE, as God made us. When we stop blaming God, and start living as we ARE, we will finally see heaven on earth, where heaven really already IS.
Lack of knowledge, pride, selfishness, self-centeredness, lack of understanding, being misled by others and by the devil, and not wanting to take responsibility for their own choices and actions.
It started in the garden, Adam blamed Eve and Eve blamed the serpent. What happened was by choice, they chose to believe the lie of satan over the word of God. We still believe lies, and are led astray by our own selfish desires.
"Let no man say when he is tested, I am tested by God; for it is not possible for God to be tested by evil, and he himself puts no man to such a test: But every man is tested when he is turned out of the right way by the attraction of his desire. Then when its time comes, desire gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is of full growth, gives birth to death. Do not be turned from the right way, dear brothers. Every good and true thing is given to us from heaven, coming from the Father of lights, with whom there is no change or any shade made by turning. ": James(Bible)
“Religion” does purport to answer the above questions. For example: “The bad things happening to you must be because you’re a bad person or because you have sinned, and God is punishing you.” Or, “This sickness is God testing your faith.” Or, “God allowed that tragedy to humble you and strengthen your faith.” Or, “This terrible situation is how God is breaking your pride.” In reality, such “answers” only add to man’s already unbearable burdens.
Millions of people accept such erroneous ideas, and it is not because atheists tell them so, unless perhaps they are atheistic lawyers or insurance agents who, acquiescing to the jargon of their trades, often describe many natural catastrophes as “acts of God.” Sometimes it seems that just about the only folks who don’t hold God accountable for human suffering are atheists. Well, at least they have one thing right.

We complain god for sufferings. What are sufferings? Physical pain, mental stress? Really God is responsible for all that? Are you kidding me?
If you can't control your thoughts and stress yourself, why you blame god for that. You don't have control on your mind, you can't control what thoughts comes into your mind and which thought you should entertain, if you are so weak, what god can do with it? It's you who can entertain good thoughts and dump the polluted ones. Will that not help in calming you down?
First control your body, your mind, your thoughts.
Set yourself free of the thoughts, concentrate on the actions in the present day, feel the god's grace that he gave you a life, parents and everything. He loves you thats why he gave you so much, that why you are what you are today. You could have been a worm in the drainhole or a stray dog, but he made you human because of your past doings and his love for you, REMEMBER THAT.
He gave you life, appreciate the fact and stop complaining. He made nature to teach you, to see, to feel, to nourish, but what you do is to complain about everything. This piece of cloth which you see in this 3 Dimensional world is drawn for YOU!
   

2 states...a lesson for parents

2 States, a story of two IIM students, Krish, a young lad from Punjab and Ananya, a cheerful Tamilian girl. Story undoubtedly was quite refreshing and had a different taste, which I think can be understood by the people who underwent such circumstances. Quite a realistic movie, yet novel was more elaborative.
Based on Chetan Bhagat’s bestselling novel, it's about a boy and a girl who love each other but decide that they will only marry with the approval of their parents, which infact is a normal approach of any love birds in India(If you are living abroad, then you won't understand this society driven mindstate). The story was well woven with the typical indian mindset of love marriages. The college life was shown nicely from classes to placements, reminded me of my college days. While they want to get married they have to convince their families to like each other, which by Indian standards, is considered as the ‘Grand Finale’ before the next stage of the relationship – marriage! They both set out to win over each other’s families, which usually happens in our society. Ananya’s parents were shown conservative and simple. Krish was however blessed with a over loving and melodramatic mother who insists on calling Ananya’s family ‘Madrasis’ and an alcoholic father with serious anger-management issues. Quite a potrayal of a typical north indian family.
                            In the first half, a sweet, unassuming love story was delivered showing a warm and modern sense of companionship between Krish and Ananya. Their mothers — played by terrific actors like Revathy and Amrita Singh — present interesting oppositions. Both the characters were well played, but Amrita Singh managed to leave an impact of a typical punjabi mother.

Alia lighted the screen as Ananya, she was charming, charismatic and a cheerful girl. After reading the novel and watching the movie, I must say Ananya's character was well played by Alia. Her expressions, reactions and dialogues everything was upto the mark, maybe I am being lineant for a new comer. Her presence on the screen was refreshing, the chemistry between the two was worth watching.

Arjun, departing from his earlier violent roles, makes a nicely goofy Krish and later from a immature lover to a serious matured and responsible lover boy. Krish was a potrayal of an IIT alumini and an IIM student. By the way of talking, behavior, etc the character tried to grab the essence of a nerd, Arjun tried his best and in my opinion he did well. From the scene where a young college boy is shivering in front of his angry father to a matured lover who presents confidently himself in front of the girl's parents had an impact on audience. His muscular look however was not matching with the nerdy image of the character.
                            The main melodrama started when the parents of the love birds met each other (a typical scene from our society). The meeting of punjabi mother, Amrita Singh, and the parents of Ananya was hilarious. It was well framed and showed the real life marriage meetings and the clashes between the "Ladke waale" and the "ladki waale", Krish' mother being sarcastic all the time, calling Ananya's family "Madrasi". The dialogues were so closely related to the real life, that it astonished me. "Apko to yaakin nahi hua hoga..ki apko beti ko, Itna handsome aur qualified ladka mila ". Whether it is Krrish-Ananya’s pre-maritaal sex talks or the Punjabi mother v/s Tamilian mother battling out on ‘how marriages are done in a community’, these conversations seem extremely realistic, giving a glimpse of how our modern society actually behaves.
                     Mrs Malhotra (Amrita Singh) felt that 'Ananya has ‘phansaaoed’ their ‘gora chitta ladka’'. Ananya being fairer than their 'gora chitta' boy, and holds down an equally well-paying job. So what’s the problem? Krish’s mom was submissive, open mouthed and passive-aggressive, like all good moms of boys who think their ‘laadla’ is being stolen away, but her downer against Ananya appeared to have no real reason, just like in the book: culturally opposed parents may start off warring, but they also have ways of getting around these things without so much pointless sparring. The film exaggerates well both the cultural specificities and the spurious differences.
                              It sets out to be a slice-of-life drama about a real couple grappling with the politics of inter-community marriage, along with that it generated enough energy and warmth in the viewer. For a boy and a girl who fall in love outside their respective caste, inorder to take their relation to a next level, a life long knot, they have to prepare for a 'jung'( an almost war). First convincing their own parents, then convincing the partner's parents and 'uske baad agar unme pyaar bachta hai to wo log shaadi kar lete hai'. That's how our society works, that's how we are. Who can say we have modern mindset? No matter how advanced we claim ourselves to be, no matter how much liberal we call ourselves, some roots are still somewhere deep down into these orthodox soil which always pulls the parents from giving their children a liberty to live their own life as per their wish and to find their own happiness.

Finally I can only say ,
To compare 2 States with DDLJ would be a sin in many ways, but all I can say is that it’s time to move over DDLJ, Raj and Simran and welcome Krrish and Ananya into our world!  DDLJ was a fantasy but 2 states was reality. The film stands out from many clichéd romances and is fresh like a breath of air. When we have gone for so many romances, that have lacked depth, 2 States is certainly far more enjoyable and applauding! It certainly deserves a watch.
I think my last post well matches with this one.

"Boy sees girl. Girl befriends boy. They fall in love and tie the knot.
Hang on. This is India and ...
Humare yahan Hindustaan mein do chaar steps aur hote hai. Ladki ki family ko ladke se pyaar hona chahiye. Ladke ke family ko ladki se. Ladke ke family ko ladki ke family se pyaar hona chahiye aur ladki ke family ko ladke ke family se!!!"

in case if you want to read the novel online or want to download it, here is the link:

https://archive.org/stream/Chetan_Bhagat_-_2_States_The_Story_of_My_Marriage.pdf/Chetan_Bhagat_-_2_States_The_Story_of_My_Marriage#page/n0/mode/2up